So how many of us feel like this? We’re busy getting through thinking, “if I can just get through this week, things will calm down”
I know I often take on so much that it feels impossible to see a way through. My husband often says to me “you know you don’t have any more hours in the day than anyone else” And sometimes we challenge ourselves to just keep going and keep going.
In reality there are times when this is what we have to do. This weekend I was in pantomime with my two daughters (oh yes I was!). On the Saturday night I bumped into the stage manager and when I say bumped into him I mean we nearly knocked each other out. There was a really quick scene change and it’s very dark back stage and we just didn’t see it other. My foot came off worse and I think I may have broken my big toe. I’m currently sat in A&E waiting to get it checked. Anyway, I was on for the next scene and I felt I couldn’t let any of the rest of the cast down by not keeping going. Also, the limp added to the authenticity of my TinMan role. In this case, keeping going was the right thing to do, I managed and the show went really well.
It got me thinking about how often we try and keep the show going no matter what pain it causes us. For me I think there are times when we have to do this – for our children, parents and loved ones. There are times when we have to put others needs ahead of ourselves. However, this is not sustainable for the long term. If you are in pain and trying to keep the show going then taking a step back, asking for help, getting yourself checked out to see what is going on is really important. You can’t take care of others if you don’t take care of yourself.
I love Queen and I think Freddie Mercury was and will always be the best performer. I’m watching the film Bohemian Rhapsody tonight with my husband as we never made it to see it an the cinema. I think his lyrics are so powerful:
The show must go on
The show must go on
Inside my heart is breaking
My make-up may be flaking
But my smile still stays on
Next week you can join me for our next free webinar “How to Stay Positive During The Menopause?” This is not a webinar about smiling through the pain and trying to pretend it isn’t happening. It’s about finding the positive in the situation, sharing how you’re feeling and coming to terms with your changing body. Menopause can be tough and we all often have a lot going on in our lives and we’re just trying to hold it all together. Being positive isn’t about keeping the show going, being positive is about taking the time for you to enable you to have your best journey possible through this transition.
So I’m sat here in A&E, waiting to find out what I’ve done and I will follow the doctors advice on how I need to heal myself to ensure I’m able to be there for everyone else. And hopefully, next weekend, the show will go on.
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