Should we look at self-care the way we care for our gardens?
So, with this new time at home, for those who are lucky enough to have a garden, they have provided a much needed outdoor space to spend time in as part of our own self-care. The weather has been a gift for many of us and getting out in the sun has definitely boosted how I feel.
I love our garden but over the last few years there are so many jobs we have never got round to doing. On the surface it looks ok, with the lawn mowed and some pretty pots planted each year but so much of it needs love, care and attention. Last autumn, a local gardening company came in and helped us with a huge blitz, clearing out lots of things and giving us a great canvas to work from. Then life got in the way and we still didn’t get round to the jobs we’d planned. This weekend my daughter and I painted the fences (with paint we bought 3 years ago to do this!) while my husband cleared lots of the garden to make space for plants to grow and fully thrive.
Last week, before we started together at the weekend, I felt overwhelmed. Where on earth do we start? I’d pulled up a few weeds here and there in the week, but had no clear focus or plan.
This got me thinking about how we do this with our bodies and our well-being. How many times do you feel like you’re in a real mess, overwhelmed and don’t know where to start? We then start to look for quick fixes and get frustrated when we don’t see quick results. Or, we keep our paint equivalent in the shed for 3 years, always planning to get started.
Things Take Time
So many things in our lives we accept they take time. We don’t expect to plant a seed and for the next day there to be a beautiful plant. We never expected to learn to drive or play the piano overnight. We know if we leave a garden or a plant without the right care and attention it will struggle to thrive.
I feel that when it comes to our health and well-being we are not so patient. The time we spend looking after ourselves right now, the effects may not be immediately obvious but the things we do add up. I’ve vowed over this time to tackle one small piece of the garden at a time. I know realistically it may not be noticeable straight away but every little change and focus will make a difference. I’m also planning to do the same with my own health and well-being.
What changes do you need to make in the way you look after yourself? How much focus do you put on your self-care?
Are you realistic with how long things take and are you willing to invest the time in your health and well-being?
The ‘Big Rocks’
I often talk about the ‘Big Rocks’ we need to tackle when working with clients. The 4 biggest areas I think should be focusing on are:
- Stress Management (current and historic)
- Diet and hydration – are we fuelling our bodies to feel well?
- Sleep hygiene
- Moving more/increasing muscle mass
These things won’t happen overnight. They take time and consistent action and some of them can feel very difficult and overwhelming. Imagine if you took one small action every week in each of these areas. How would you feel a year from now?
You can download our free ‘Big Rocks’ Action Sheet to help plan your next steps on your self-care journey: http://themenopauseclub.com/hormonal-big-rocks-action-sheets-1/
We know what a huge impact menopause can have on our health and well-being, let’s take the time to make the changes we know we should be making. Be realistic. Be consistent. And ultimately enjoy the time you spend on caring for you.