It’s Ok Not To Be Ok!
I’ve heard this quote a lot recently, and it’s something that is so important for us to think about seriously. But how do you be OK with not being OK?
A few weeks I had to deal with some devastating news about a friend of mine. In the past when dealing with things I always felt the need to just get on, to keep going. People are relying on me, people need me and I can’t just stop because of how I feel.
One of the things I’ve learnt through this journey is it’s ok to take some time out to deal with how you’re feeling. If you don’t it will come back and bite you. There is a technical term called your allostatic load. The primary hormonal mediators of the stress response, glucocorticoids and catecholamines, have both protective and damaging effects on the body. In the short run, they are essential for adaptation, maintenance of homeostasis, and survival (allostasis). Yet, over longer time intervals, they exact a cost (allostatic load) that can accelerate disease processes.
This is the accumulation of everything that’s happened in your life and you can only cope with so much. That one next thing could be the thing that tips you over, that thing that makes life feel really hard to cope with.
I guess what I’m saying is sometimes you need to give yourself time to feel, acknowledge how you feel and think about what you can or want to do about those feelings. None of us are Superwoman although we are all super women. It’s ok to not be ok sometimes and it’s ok to give yourself a break.
I spent 3 days that week just looking after myself. I took a couple of days off work, chatted to a couple of amazing friends, binge watched some feel good TV, slept and allowed myself time to process what’s going on. I can’t fix the situation but I have got my head around what’s happening and I know when needed I can be there for my friend. I know it may be hard to do this for many people but your health and well-being must be your priority, do what you can to properly take care of yourself.
Be kind to yourself, look after your needs so you can look after others. And never be afraid to ask for help.
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